The year is still young. Have you made resolutions or set intentions for positive change in the new year? How is it going?

We all know someone who invested themselves in big changes: weight loss, sobriety, or a great new relationship. We’ve seen them succeed, then go  right back to where they started.  We’ve all seen (or been!) that person and scratched our heads in wonder at how they (or we) could have possibly thrown their progress away after all that effort.

When you make a life change or heal an old wound, it changes how you see yourself and how you function in the world. For example, now you’re in a relationship with someone who can actually be a good partner. But you’ve never had that before, so now it feels like you’re losing your ever lovin’ mind! It may feel like you just can’t do it.

Maybe you’ve lost a lot of weight and don’t know how to move in your new body. Everyone looks at you and treats you differently, now what?  Or you’re sober now and feel completely socially awkward. You’re having all of the feelings the chemical defenses smoothed over and don’t know how to cope. Right?

There is a major difference between those who sustain the changes they’ve worked so hard for and those who don’t: the ability to tolerate feeling completely incompetent and not having a clue what to do with yourself now.

What can you do in order not to lose your progress? Build a support team include at least one friend or family member who believes in you and supports your progress. Find other people who have done what you’re doing. If you feel like you are the only person to ever go through this and no one could possibly understand, I guarantee you’re wrong about that, you just may be too isolated to know that you are not alone. We have the internet now, get out there and search for your tribe and your mentors.

Find a licensed counselor. When you are doing big things. They can help you build resources, coping skills and communication skills for your new life. 

A good Reiki healer can help relieve stress. They can give you support and comfort and help ease your fears. Reiki can even remove obstacles to your success. Your Reiki healer can help you tune into your best self and to your higher power so that you can remember who you are.

​Remember why you are doing this thing in the first place. Reiki can bring awareness and clarity about where you need help so, you can turn to the other members of your support team, not with a desperate plea of “Help me!” but clear questions and intentions. 

If you are making big changes and feeling completely scared, vulnerable, lost or stupid; you are doing great! The harder it is and the more incompetent you feel, the more you are learning. If you’re learning lots of hard things, you are a badass.  Keep Going!